It’s Kamelia, studio manager at Heyn Photography. Reality check: It’s 11:30 on a Thursday and I’m sitting at my slightly sticky dining room table, wearing my flannel Christmas pajamas, sipping lukewarm coffee and attempting to write something halfway decent for you to read. I wanted to start by saying “I’m just writing to check in with you all during this Covid19 nightmare.” But then I thought, how sick are you all getting of that phrase? It seems to the only thing we’re able to do these days is “check in” on each other as we sit with our hands tied. I don’t know about you, but I’m a doer, and sitting around in limbo is driving me crazy.
So, I’m going to go a bit off the cuff here for a minute. And I want to paraphrase this with the following: We are all incredibly lucky. We have our health, we have roofs over our heads, we have (some) food in the fridge, and electricity to power our expensive electronics that enable us to read rambling blog posts such as this one. We should be grateful for these things always. That being said, I think a lot of us are experiencing some pretty deep emotions here that I want to acknowledge.
To all our brides who have had to postpone:
You have dreamed about your special day since you were a little girl. You imagined the dress, the cake, your first dance, and dreamed about your prince charming. Now you’re grown up and your taste in dresses may have changed and chocolate sprinkle rainbow cake might have taken a more sophisticated turn. But you have finally found your dream guy; the one to dance with, the one you want to spend the rest of your life with. And you’ve spent months planning your wedding together. Every decision has been well thought out. You’ve saved up money and made a budget and gone through the painstaking process of hiring vendors who will give you the perfect day. And you were so close to the finish line, so close to walking down the aisle and into your happily ever after. And then the world stopped. All your plans came to a crashing halt and the uncertainty set in.
If you’re anything like us, you’re going through the 5 stages of grief (don’t ask us which one we’re on now, it varies daily.) We totally get it. The disappointment is very real and very valid. You are angry and sad and worried. Why did this have to happen to YOU. How are you going to pull off a postponement and why does your day have to be tainted with the memory of this cruel virus? How do you deal with the anxiety of what is happening all around you while also dealing with re-planning your wedding? And to top it all off, you feel guilty for feeling bad because after all, we are in the middle of the world ending.
Well, I’m here to tell you that your feelings are valid. All of them. It is totally normal to feel grief and disappointment and worry. It is totally normal to be stressed. And I honestly wish there was more we do for you right now. But I do want you to know that we are here. Sitting in our pajamas, on our couches or at our dining room tables or even in bed, our kids playing loudly in the background, but still here. We can’t guarantee much at this time, but we can guarantee communication and a listening ear.
When Marissa hired me as her studio manager, she told me that our business is not taking photos. Our business is making couples happy and giving them the best wedding that we can. This has always been the goal at Heyn Photography. So while we are truly upset to have to put down our cameras and sit tight for a while, we are still here to ensure you get the wedding you truly deserve. We may not be dressed, or sitting in our pretty studio, or know what day of the week it is, but we’re still working.
For those of you who have reached out to ask how we’re doing, thank you. Running a business during this unprecedented crisis is harrowing. So we truly appreciate you checking in. What we would also super duper appreciate is some good lovin’ on social media. Post and tag us, like our pix, and most of all tell your friends about us! Not to get all cheesy on you, but we strongly believe that love conquers all and we can’t wait to get back to work celebrating LOVE.
So stay safe, stay sane, wash your hands, and hug your loved ones. We’ll get through this together!